The day after thanksgiving we loaded all the kids into the car plus grandma and headed over the pass to Portland. We are so thankful for Noele's mom Connie. She often occompanies us on trips like these to help with the kids. We had been blessed by a friend who just completed an Indian adoption to refer us to a Christian psychologist and he was able to get us in right away and for about a third of the price. So after dropping grandma and the kids off at the Children's museum, Noele, Asher, and I went to the psychologist office. For some reason when I heard we had to do a psych evaluation I pictured being strapped to a chair in a concrete windowless room with a lamp in our faces. That couldn't be farther from the truth. He was 74 years old and extremely pleasant to be around. Fourtunately Asher fell asleep right as he started the interview portion with Noele and I. He asked us both about our childhood, upbringing, relationships with our parents, our marriage, and our own parenting. He then told us it was time to take the personality tests. I said thats like an hour right? Knowing that grandma had been with the kids for quite awhile by now. He looked at me and chuckled and said, "More like three hours." So while Asher explored and tried to get into everything, Noele and I furiously tore through an 800 question test. Our pencils were ground down to nubs by the time it was over. We are currently awaiting the results of the test but we are 99.999% sure we are not serial killers.
After picking grandma and the kids up we headed to Hood River to stay the night because in the morning we would meet our social worker for the first time. This saves us from having to pay for her mileage and hotel stay in Redmond. Noele and I have gotten really good at figuring out sleeping arrangements for 4 kids in a hotel room as they have come with me often when I travel out of town for work.
The next morning as the kids and grandma played at the pool we met our social worker and she was awesome. She is so helpful in answering our questions and laying any fears aside. Adoption is her side hustle and her bright spot she tells us because her normal job is Child welfare services. This was really just an orientation visit to the the homestudy as she will have to come down for two days and ovbserve and interview our family, but it was great to have someone answer so many questions face to face that we had.
We are finding out that although this process can look intimidating, once you are in it, it's not so bad. The way that you eat an elephant is one bite at a time, and Noele and I are staying consistant in getting forms filled and things notarized. We will work on the online education a bit here and bit there. Little by little things get checked off the list and we are moving forward to bringing a little girl home from India. If you have had this calling or urge, I just encourage you to start the process. If everyone had to have all their t's crossed and i's dotted then adoption wouldn't happen at all. You can do this too. You can give a child hope and a life where there wasnt hope or much of a chance at life. You are enough. If you feel encouraged by reading this we pray you would have an eternal mindset and remember Jesus the cost it took to adopt you into the family of God. We thank you so much for your support and especially your prayers for our family and soon to be daughter.
"A father to the fatherless, a defender of the widows, is God in His holy habitation. God sets the solitary in families; He brings out those who are bound into prosperity...." Psalms 68"5-6